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Self-Care and Sobriety

I’ve always liked to drink. My family served wine with holiday celebrations, I used to write for a beer magazine, sharing whiskey with friends was an experience. But, I’m officially closer to my 30’s now and in recent years I’ve felt myself slowing down a bit. I noticed that I used colorful cocktails and hoppy brews as a crutch for when I wasn’t feeling my best.

This observation became fully formed this summer when I unexpectedly lost one of my closest friends. In the wake of my grief I noticed how easy it would be to lean heavily on alcohol as a coping mechanism. After giving that some thought, I decided to stop drinking.

I didn’t put a goal on it, or say “I’m never touching alcohol again”. There wasn’t even a,  “I’ll avoid booze for a month”. I just decided to test myself and cut drinking out of my life, for an undetermined amount of time and see how I felt.

Here’s what I learned by cutting drinking out of my life:

Waking Up In The Morning Doesn’t Suck As Much

I’ll admit, I’ve never really been much of a morning person. Like ever. I had always had the tendency to hear my alarm, roll out of bed, lazily get dressed, and run out the door. Since I quit drinking, the mornings aren’t nearly as treacherous as I thought they were! Waking up is easier, it feels refreshing. My body feels rested and refreshed, but when I was drinking more regularly I would wake up feeling groggy and desperate for an IV of black coffee. Being able to wake up with a better mindset has helped to make my days go more smoothly and I have more energy than I thought possible.

Stronger Yoga Practice

Once I stopped drinking I felt a shift in my yoga practice. I have more focus. Part of it is because I’m more rested. Another part is that my body is being nourished and not just filled with sugary or heavy drinks. I feel as though I’m able to partake in more challenging flows and execute poses that I never thought I could do. My body feels leaner and stronger, as a result. My body being physically healthier has led to more self love and a higher appreciation for what my body can do.

Improved Mental Health

I’m a big advocate for taking your mental health seriously and addressing things in your life that can help you to feel better. When I stopped drinking, I was finally able to take a good, hard look at myself and come to terms with some of my mental disorders. It’s something I’ll always be working on, but since starting my road to sobriety, I’ve been able to gain a better perspective and understanding of myself. A better understanding of how I operate and what makes me feel the best I can feel. It’s been an enlightening and helpful experience that I feel so grateful for.

Focus Through The Roof

If you’re a procrastinator, maybe you’ll relate to this. Once sober, I have had more focus than ever before. I wake up ready to tackle projects. My house is spotless. My email is up to date. I’m taking on more projects at work, jumping back into freelance writing because I enjoy it, and I’m working on drafting and editing my second novel. These are all things I WANTED to do when I was drinking regularly, but could never find the motivation or the energy or the inspiration.

I’m Just As Boring Sober As I Am Drunk

This is my favorite realization since being sober. When I decided to quit drinking, my significant other was, of course, supportive. However, a lot of our friends only hang out when they meet up at a brewery to grab a pint or swing by their favorite restaurant to bug the bartenders who have become our friends and get discounted canned beer. When I thought about that I wondered, “Well, how am I going to maintain these relationships when my friends meet up for drinks? What do I do with my hands? Will I seem weird?”

The short answer is no. No to all of it. When I go out now, it’s still really fun. It’s almost more fun actually,  because I snicker to myself while my friends sink into their lazy chatter. I get to drive them home, make sure they’re safe at the end of the night. I get to Snapchat them pictures of me at 9 AM on Saturday morning being productive while they are nursing gnarly hangovers. It’s been a really great lesson and insight to my personality too. I’m just as exciting/boring sober as I am drunk. Either way, I’m asleep by 11 PM. People watching is more fun for me than talking anyway.

I hope that my insight about sobriety has been interesting or helpful for some people. I have met a lot of people in my approximately 150 days sober that say “Man I wish I could do that!”. And, I mean, you can. It’s not too hard. Getting through some of the first social events is the worst but all in all, I’ve felt some tremendously positive benefits from cutting alcohol out of my life. Will my sobriety last forever? I don’t know. But it’s good for me, right now and I like that! I like to like myself and I’ve learned to care for myself in new ways.  Let me know if you have any questions! I’m always happy to discuss. 

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6 Comments

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    Anne

    February 17, 2019 at 11:00 pm

    Loved this article! I’ve thought about stop drinking, but have never had the courage. This article makes me think i can. Thanks for the insight

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    Hanna

    February 18, 2019 at 2:59 pm

    “what do I do with my hands” had me laughing. Ah, being an introvert is fun! But I love the insight and maturity in this article. Growing up can be hard and being in your 20’s is tough, but has some great rewards as Kjerstin has so eloquently written. Overall, great article!

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      Erin Motz

      February 18, 2019 at 8:26 pm

      Never know what to do with my hands.

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    ANGIE ABBOTT

    February 21, 2019 at 1:43 pm

    I liked how you addressed the question of how to maintain relationships centered on getting together for drinks when you are sober. I have a question though, when someone inevitably offers you something and you tell them you don’t drink, then they always automatically ask you “why?” – what do you say?

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      Kjerstin Lie

      February 21, 2019 at 1:54 pm

      That’s a good question, actually! I think my answer changed throughout the process, honestly. I initially just said “Oh, I’m taking a breather from drinking at the moment. Give myself a health break”. But since then, my answer has changed to just “nah, I’m good. I don’t drink”. Usually the response is “Cool! I should do that too, take a break. A detox”. And I’m surprised by how often I hear people respond with a “I don’t drink either!” and then we secret high-five and giggle at all the tipsy folks. I have yet to run into a shaming situation. Most people just brush it off, at least in my experience!

      I think at first I was worried people would be weird or awkward about it, but most of the time people don’t question it. (Except for my close friends at the start because they were used to talking beer with me).

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    Anna

    October 1, 2019 at 1:07 pm

    Good article thank you.

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