We’re in the middle of Pride Month, and many countries are having Pride Parades to celebrate the LGBTQ community. It’s great that these parades are happening, but what’s really sad is that, even though so many people are supporting the LGBTQ community, many of them have been abandoned by their families after coming out. Luckily, there are people with kind and open hearts who make it their job to let these people feel loved.
Deciding to attend a Pride Parade
BuzzFeed reports that Scott Dittman, who is known as Howie to his friends, decided to head to the Pittsburgh Pride Parade at the last minute. He made the decision to go after hearing that his friend Denna was attending with Free Mom Hugs – an organization that makes it their main mission to assist those in the LGBTQ community and also provide them with hugs at Pride events. It’s sad that this is even necessary, but it’s amazing that there are people who take the time to do this.
After deciding to join Denna, Dittman headed over to Amazon and got himself a shirt that said “free dad hugs” on the front. Then he made his way to the Pittsburgh Pride Parade. What he didn’t know was that he was about to make a lot of people very happy.
Making a massive impact
Dittman couldn’t even begin to imagine the impact he was about to have on those attending the event, nor could he imagine the impact all the people he would meet that day would have on him. The first person he got to give a hug to was a young woman. Dittman recalls how she was standing in front of him with tears in her eyes before throwing her arms around him and thanking him over and over again for what he was doing. Another big moment was when a young man came to hug him, saying that his parents abandoned him after he came out to them at the age of 19. “He just sobbed and sobbed and thanked us. He just melted. It was an honor to be involved in that, but it was terrible at the same time,” Dittman says.
Dittman received all kinds of hugs that day, ranging from happy ones to very sad ones. He realized that many of the people attending the Parade hadn’t had something as simple as a hug from their dad in a very, very long time. This realization made him incredibly sad and he decided that he was going to take things a little further to create more awareness around the issue.
After he got home, Dittman took to Facebook to share his experience with the rest of the world and hopefully reach some of the people who have abandoned their children because of their sexual orientation. His post read:
“Imagine that, parents. Imagine that your child feels SO LOST FROM YOU that they sink into the arms of a complete stranger and sob endlessly just because that stranger is wearing a shirt offering hugs from a dad. Think of the depths of their pain. Try to imagine how deep those cuts must be.”
The post quickly went viral, and Dittman received over 1,500 messages from strangers – some were from people who had been abandoned by their parents, while others were from parents who had abandoned their children. Dittman says that the post had the desired effect, because some of the messages he received were from parents who told him that they were going to reach out to their children.
“I’ve had so many parents reach out to me saying they’ve been crying for days, saying they’ve been those parents, and they’ve reached out to their children they haven’t talked to in years. How do [you] even describe that? How do you even describe the feeling that gives you?”
Love is love
It’s amazing what a difference an act of kindness, a t-shirt, and a Facebook post can make. Being part of the LGBTQ community doesn’t make you less of a human being. There’s no reason why a parent should throw away their child just because he or she doesn’t conform to society’s standards. People are people. Love is love. Over here, we don’t see men falling in love with women, or women falling in love with women or men falling in love with men. We see people falling in love with other people. In the end, that’s all that really matters. Spread the love. Spread the Pride – and never be ashamed of who you are.