On Turning 28
You are doing just fine.
When I woke up on my 28th birthday, it felt like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. It was one of those days. And it was my birthday. It happens to the best of us, right Erin? Why DOES 28 feel like doomsday?!?
LATE 20’s! I guess I am supposed to be an adult now! Despite my best efforts to optimistic, I felt depressed. My 5-month-old puppy decided to leave me a surprise present (insert poop emoji) which I proceeded to step in as soon as I got out of the shower. And then I ran out of time to make breakfast. No time for self-loathing though. I have to get to my desk job; it’s the adult thing to do.
Birthdays make us reflect on where we are in life. I’ve checked a few things off my bucket list. My favorite being that I married my college sweetheart and we have a loving home together. I love teaching Yoga Sculpt classes 3 times a week. I have a full time job in the field that I majored in (woohoo?). My family loves me and I have great friends that support me.
It all sounds great on paper and honestly, in real life I feel pretty damn happy with my life majority of the time.
But there are those days, you know, THOSE DAYS. It’s hard to admit, because I am proud of my own accomplishments and I am genuinely happy to see others thrive in life. But once in a while you hear something so incredible and moving that someone else has accomplished sometimes instead of celebrating you begin to question your own path.
Why does this happen? We live in a society where so many people experience overnight fame and the number of likes you get on social media have equated to one’s self worth. I am thankful that we live in a world where we are encouraged to follow our dreams but sometimes the pressure to make the history books creates this weird idea of success. At some point it stopped mattering what we were doing with life unless others noticed.
The truth is that you are not a failure if you don’t find fame, a cure for cancer or create your own start up by age 28. Or even in your lifetime for that matter. It’s okay if you haven’t hiked the tallest mountain or mastered the most Instagram worthy yoga pose. If you do accomplish those things, that is something to be proud of and I hope you feel fulfilled.
As for the rest of us, this blog post is just supposed to serve as a reminder that you are doing just fine. Right where you are in life is where you are meant to be.
If you find yourself having moments of self-doubt, you are not alone. This may seem like the blind leading the blind; however here is my advice for those of us reevaluating:
Stop comparing. Love yourself, the choices you’ve made, the mistakes you’ve made, and everything in between. What makes you happy and fulfilled can be a completely different path than what makes someone else feel happy and fulfilled. Neither path is worth more or less.
Whatever your dreams include, they are never too late to achieve. Hell, it’s okay if you don’t even know what your dreams are yet. And if you change your mind a few times down the road, you are doing just fine. Only you are able to determine what makes you happy.
Stop searching outward. Turn your search inward.
Stay close with the people you love even when you take different paths in life.
Join clubs, take up new hobbies and volunteer.
Make your health a priority.
If you don’t have time for all of that, just be a nice person.
Give thanks often, and mean it.
If you have the chance to make someone else feel loved, DO IT.
You are not too old, you are not too late, you are good enough, and you are doing enough.
YOU ARE SO ENOUGH. It’s not even funny.
Another Unsure 28-year-old