Advice Q&A Wednesday

What do you do when “intuition” fails you? (Q&A feat The Frenchman!)

Sometimes our gut takes us in (seemingly) the wrong direction. It’s scary when we trust our intuition only to be let down because things don’t turn out exactly as we envisioned.

Here’s how to overcome the fear of trusting your gut when you feel like it’s failed you before.

Today’s Q&A features the pure gold wisdom from The Frenchman, too.

Enjoy!

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21 Comments

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    Louise

    March 15, 2017 at 6:55 am

    Hi Erin – I can’t access your video re intuition – it is telling me it’s private!

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    Ewa

    March 15, 2017 at 7:00 am

    same thing – this film is private

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    Carolyn

    March 15, 2017 at 7:01 am

    Hi, Erin, I’m having the same issue.

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    Roger . Dutchie

    March 15, 2017 at 7:17 am

    Prive

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    Connie

    March 15, 2017 at 7:21 am

    Yep…..private here too!

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    Sharon Costen

    March 15, 2017 at 7:26 am

    Still set to private!

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    Jacquelyn Bever

    March 15, 2017 at 7:26 am

    Same here- private video

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    Rose

    March 15, 2017 at 9:50 am

    Ditto…private video…

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    Mary Jane Jakubowski

    March 15, 2017 at 10:42 am

    ditto…

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    Erika

    March 15, 2017 at 11:16 am

    Man oh man – this hit home! I’m currently trying to decide if I want to pursue a certificate in functional medicine. I’m an administrator and I teach yoga on the side, but I just don’t feel as fulfilled as I’d like to. I want to help people! I’ve been looking into so many programs, and some give off terrible vibes and others a little better. It’s hard to know if this is something worth pursuing, but my intuition says yes! Even if it’s not 100% perfect, maybe it’ll open a door or lead me down a different path. Thanks for the wisdom!

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    Zoe

    March 15, 2017 at 11:18 am

    Gah! This is my story right now! I left a job that was making me miserable for a job at a new gym. I sooooo felt like I had found my place. It then became clear to me that this was a place where mean girls thrived, greediness abounds and you only matter if you workout 300 times a day. It took a few major fallouts with “friends” there before I thought, what the hell am I doing?! Yes, I am surrounded by mostly good hearted people. Yes, I can get my workout done every day during work. But, the icky was quickly out weighing the good. So, I left. I have felt a void ever since. I did feel silly for taking such a huge leap of faith and trusting my intuition, when it was so off. I had to walk away from what I thought was my destiny after one short year, and it sucks!!! Thanks for this video, it makes me feel like much less of a loser 🙂

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    Steph

    March 15, 2017 at 12:26 pm

    Thanks for this video. It came out just at the right time! I’m currently training to become an art-therapist. It was a big leap of faith to start on this path because it meant going back to student’s life while I was in the middle of breaking up with my long term boyfriend who had been a very reassuring safety net for years when I was earning next to nothing as a most of the time unemployed stage decorator. Now I’m in my 30s and I’m back to living with my mum and younger brother. And this training is great and I know taking care of people through art is exactly what I want to do and the career I want to persue, but part of it is teaching an art workshop to children once a week for 6 months. And I’m not a children’s person. I like them and I’m rather patient, but I’m also not completely at ease with them and they tire me out after an hour. This afternoon I had a group of 7 children and they really had trouble following directions (or I was having trouble giving them), they were really agitated and it was really tough to keep the workshop on track and calm… At the end I was questionning what I was doing there! I’m broke, living with my mum, not earning my own money but I’m spending hours working with kids who don’t listen to me!
    But after a moment in the calm and watching this video, I can put things in perspective. It’s just one bad workshop. I know it’s just a passage too, even if I fail with children it’s not going to determine whether I can become an art-therapist or not, but it might teach me that I should probably abstain from taking on younger patients.

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    Jim

    March 15, 2017 at 12:39 pm

    This has been a sore spot for my entire life. I feel like i don’t have any intuition at all! Maybe ’cause i’m a guy, and it’s really a woman’s thing!? So many times i thought a person and/or situation was ‘right’ only to find myself in another “painful redirect”. Other times i’ve had very fortunate circumstances come my way but feel like it’s always been just ‘dumb luck’. As an older person who’s lived a whole life this way i am now very accustomed to not being able to discern a good from bad feeling and so just kind of muddle my way through and hope for the best. Needless to say, it’s led to a very uninspiring life, but still a good one for the most part. Luckily, ” I have my books, and my poetry to protect me” (P. Simon).
    So i’ve heard that intuition can be cultivated. Is this true?

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    Barbs Herbst

    March 15, 2017 at 12:54 pm

    I have a story that is definitely related to this. About 13 years ago I was 1 semester away from getting a degree in elementary education to become a teacher. I didn’t feel ready or right about it, so at the very last second switched my major to social science (so incredibly lucrative! ha!). Fast forward to last year, I was stuck in an office job that I hated and decided to follow my intuition and go back to elementary education. I’m pursuing my teaching certificate. It’s a lot of work, I think you are right when you said that you have to be totally committed and remind yourself why you want to do it. I think 13 years ago I just didn’t want it as badly as I should have. It’s funny how intuition can lead you out of something and then right back to it 13 years later.

    Unrelated – I’m a few days away from finishing the PBYB. I have you to thank for keeping me sane the last 8 weeks. Thank you!

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    Pamela

    March 15, 2017 at 1:12 pm

    This is so good!! Thank you for sharing, Erin and Adrien!
    I’m going through one of these existencial soul-searching periods. But the older I get, the more I believe life is about cycles, so I’m trying not to panic, it has happened before and it will surely happen again.
    I had a 9-5 job (ok, more like 8-10-with-no-benefits job) for a year before I followed my intuition into freelancing, which was much tougher than I expected! After falling and getting back up several times with different projects, things started to look better (it took about a year to stabilize my freelancing business). It helped me learn and grow all the time, and all the times I failed helped me do a much better job next time around.
    After a few years and moving to a different country, I craved a regular job again. I followed that intuition, and was really miserable during the time I was unemployed. I started to doubt my decisions, my capacity, and self worth. It took 14 months to find a job! Now I feel more stable than before, especially income-wise, and I enjoy my work most of the time, but I realize I am pursuing somebody else’s dream and that my values align very well with most of my colleagues’, but not really with the company’s. So now my intuition is pulling me back towards freelancing and circumstances are settling in a way that would make it impossible for me not to pursue a long-time dream of mine. And it’s scary!! I would have no excuse to not try it, and thus there is a possibility of failing and feeling crushed.
    Intuition is there to tell me I need to make changes to my life, and all changes are scary and carry certain risk, if only because it leads to something *different* and thus we may lack experience about how to handle it. But isn’t that a good thing? That we keep looking for new things?
    My (long) mantra is: If it scares me, it’s because it means a lot to me, and therefore I’d be a fool not to try it.
    Good luck with your projects, Bad Yogis! <3

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      Pamela

      March 15, 2017 at 2:35 pm

      Dear blog moderators: Please delete my comment 🙁 I realize it was reckless of me to express myself that way about my current employer. I don’t want any trouble. I tried to delete it myself but can’t. Thank you!

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    Megan Taylor

    March 15, 2017 at 1:45 pm

    I write science fiction! I have been for a really, ridiculously long time.

    A couple of years ago I finally finished my first real novel, and I started sending queries to agents. Twenty rejections later, I realized that I still had a lot of work to do.

    So I went back and revised, and made my novel even better. Now, I’m querying again, and I just got a rejection letter that made me so happy, because it complimented me on how hard I’d worked. Even though the agent wasn’t right for me, she knew how much effort and passion I’d put into what I’ve done. That is a huge step!

    I’ve also learned that I have to branch out and try different approaches. I’m putting more effort into blogging about writing and the books I read, and reaching out to more people.

    Just because something is your passion doesn’t mean it’s going to come easy. In fact, if it’s worth doing it’s probably going to be really, really hard. But if you keep your mind open and keep reaching for that thing the voice inside says you ought to be doing, then I believe eventually you’ll get there.

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    Amy Mitchell

    March 15, 2017 at 10:42 pm

    Sooooo, just signed up for my 200 Hour Yoga teacher training! Finally! It is a 6 month course and we start next week! Yikes! I have been wanting to do it for a few years, and this year I AM going to make it happen! I currently have my Yoga Fit Level 1 Teacher Training, and am so ready to take it to the next level!! Wish me luck!!!! Maybe I will do a video after. Ha ha. Just kidding! You kill it with the video teaching!!! (Amy M. From Indiana) ps: come to Indianapolis, Indiana …. PALEAZE!!!! ?

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    Roger . Dutchie

    March 16, 2017 at 3:29 pm

    Mijn intuitie ben ik een paar jaar geleden ook op af gegaan. Na ontslag diab 1 schouder pees over en slechte knieen.enz. Iemand zij stop er mee .lk naar de sportschool. S,morgens ,avonds. Smiddags slapen om teherstellen. Nee yoga en thai she dat moest het worden Maar met mijn 105 kg was dit een opgaven. En tegenwerking van mijn wederhelft,( zweverig wat moet je hier mee) IK doorzetten. .na 3jaar ,met behulp van mijn tai she leraar, en depos inbreng van Erin. Sta ik er veel positiever voor. Ik probeer steeds bij te leren. Mijn intuitie heeft me hier toe gebracht. Met vallen en opstaan.

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    Lisa

    March 16, 2017 at 4:35 pm

    This takes me back to when I was still looking for an actual Librarian position in FL. I was living in Nashville at the time, working in a library but not really using my MLIS. I was reading a book with ties to Sarasota (aka Ringling Circus), and as I was reading it I got this feeling that this was a sign I am going to be going home soon, I felt my intuition in my bones about. Not long before I started reading this book I applied for a position in Sarasota, but had basically given up hope because Id been searching for almost 2 years for the coveted “Librarian” position. A couple weeks after I finished, I got a call for a phone interview, then got asked to come down for an interview (perfect timing as I was flying home for my birthday anyway) which was on my birthday, a week later I got offered the position!! I had almost given up and had given up on my intution at that point. My life has never been better, I even found a great guy who whole heartidly supports my yoga and other healthy habits Ive been working on incorporating into my life!!

    And more recently, I applied for a different position, but Im happy where I am at so if I don’t get that job, no harm no foul, just more experience!!

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    Caroline

    March 16, 2017 at 8:05 pm

    My intuition is telling me to leave Colorado and move to Asheville, NC to be closer to my family. I loved this video because I am terrified that I’ll get there and be disappointed – I won’t be able to find a full time job or it won’t be this magical place of connection and happiness that I’m craving. I love the Frenchman’s comment that it might be a stop to learn lesson that you need to learn before you can find where you truly need to be. That’s how I feel Colorado has been, in retrospect. I feel like it has served it’s purpose in my life and now I can move on to something new!

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