Yoga is for Lovers

A Word on the Search for Love

I am single. And I have been for more than two years.

I can feel how I am ready, I am searching for the right person to spend nothing less than the rest of my life with. The stakes are high.

In the spiritual world, you talk about manifesting what you want and that is what I have started doing.

Therefore, I wrote down what I want, in detail, in my ideal partner.

I want him to be social, to have good friends and to enjoy social events.

I want him to be active, to love nature and climbing mountains.

I want him to love children.

I want him to play an instrument (this one I wrote down just for the universe to have some fun with!)

I want him to be surrounded by family which he loves to spend time with.

I want him to appreciate me and my life journey.

I want him to be ambitious, to know where he is going and strive to do his very best, always.

I want him to take good care of his body with nutritious food.

I want him to love me unconditionally, and I will love him the same way.

I want him to be grateful for all the beauty in the world.

I want.

I want.

I want.

The list goes on.

Basically, what I want is for him to influence me in a very good way. But do I want him to fill up some space I don´t think I can fill by myself?

And then I realized it. All I want in my partner is something that I want for myself.

I want all those things. I want to be more social. I want to climb mountains. I want to play an instrument (as before, just for the fun of it!).

I want to take better care of myself, I want to love myself more.

I want.

I want.

I want.

And realizing this means that I am already all I ever wanted. I am already capable of all those things.

So, that is not really what I want in my partner. Or yes, of course, him being all those things would be great. But I can also do all of this and more, by myself.

Of course, I want someone who loves me, we all do, but first I will love myself.

Of course, I want someone who influences me to do all those good things in my life, but I can also do it by myself.

So, I will start by being my own partner! (cheesy, right?). I will be all those things I want to be. And I will act like this person I´m looking for is already here, doing all these great things and influencing me to do the same.

And I believe he will show up eventually (with some effort from my side, like leaving the house!).

But until then, I will be everything I want to be, I will have everything I want to have and I will love and love and love myself more than any other will ever love me.

Because single or not, I’m quite amazing!

Yogis, how have you showed up as your own partner? Tell us below!

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    April 20, 2017 at 1:47 pm

    “We have become the men we wanted to marry.” – Gloria Steinem
    🙂 <3

    1. Pála Margrét

      Pála Margrét

      April 27, 2017 at 12:58 pm

      I love that!

  2. Chuck Vadun

    Chuck Vadun

    April 25, 2017 at 12:45 pm

    Love it!

  3. Amanda Sides

    Amanda Sides

    April 26, 2017 at 10:23 am

    I was single through most of college and for a couple of years afterward, and it was so important for my personal growth. It taught me to be my own partner: to do the things I wanted, when I wanted, because waiting might mean never doing them at all. It gave me such confidence and resourcefulness. Those were precious years, and they helped me grow into the person I am as a partner today.

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    May 3, 2017 at 12:28 am

    I am so totally in sync with this!!

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    May 27, 2017 at 12:34 am

    I love this!

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