Q&A Wednesday

Q&A: How do you deal when someone doesn’t like you?

I know what it feels like to be disliked. It’s not that I have TONS of haters or anything, because I really don’t. Bad Yogi is made up of the BEST people on the internet and I feel so honored that you’re all here. So, to be really clear, I don’t have any bad feelings about people not liking me, ok? πŸ˜‰

In today’s Q&A, I’m simply referencing the inevitabilities of life! We all run into someone or some people who don’t like us for whatever reason. Maybe They don’t like our fashion or our work or our opinions or our career choice or ANYTHING, but it happens.

I’ll tell you one of the most embarrassing things that ever happened to me in class, and how I’ve desensitized myself a little to the reality that some people just won’t like me. This does NOT have to be a horrible thing, but it happens, and you should be equipped with the right frame of mind to handle it well without falling to pieces.

One of the biggest takeaways here is THIS:
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Watch the full Q&A below and as always, let me know what you think!

Over to you! How do you deal with it when someone doesn’t like you? Do you crumble or brush it off? Any best practices you care to share?!

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    Diana

    November 16, 2016 at 9:53 am

    I LOVE YOU ERIN! πŸ˜€ Recommended you to a friend this past weekend. I hope she gets hooked like I have. Wish you had been an influence in my life when I turned 18.

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    Rhys

    November 16, 2016 at 9:53 am

    Well said, I was given a similar response when I was promoted to supervisor. It hurt at first, and I almost crumbled, but I realized that you can’t make everyone happy, go with what you stand for, and you will have people walking with you. For those who don’t follow you, look at them in your rear view mirror as you go forward.

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    Dilyana

    November 16, 2016 at 10:03 am

    I cannot believe those people you described! And in a yoga studio at that. You may be the most physically advanced yogi on the planet but if you behave as an asshole off the mat, you really don’t get the point of yoga at all.

    That was me being a critic.

    And here’s me being a cheerleader – Erin, you are amazing and truly inspiring! Keep up the great work – what you do is so much more than just yoga.

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    Clarissa L

    November 16, 2016 at 10:12 am

    So true. It’s good to be reminded once in a while. Hope you are felling better! ❀️

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      Clarissa L

      November 16, 2016 at 10:14 am

      Feeling ??

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    Kim Rands

    November 16, 2016 at 10:20 am

    Love it! Perfect timing for me, as I currently have some “Trolls” in my life. πŸ˜‰

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    Kay

    November 16, 2016 at 10:26 am

    Great info. Thanks for that. Critics will always be our lives..it’s hard when it’s someone close to you though. Several years ago I worked at a Curves. When the manager left, was ask to take that job – overlooking a gal who had been there since it opened. But, I took the job and a couple days later I heard from one of the clients that she had told them she wouldn’t do what I ask her to do. I decided to ask her about it — I didn’t ask if she said those things, but suggested that she not talk to clients about issues we might have — because I had a feeling that this person was trying to stir something up between us. It seemed to help, but I don’t think she truly go over being overlooked for the job. You do the best you can, Thanks again.

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    Erica Musgrove

    November 16, 2016 at 10:27 am

    This was AWESOME Erin, just what I needed to hear. I often struggle with comparing myself to other yoga teachers or worrying that students won’t like me, but in my experience everything you said resonates.
    Keep up the great work. I’m definitely part of your passionate tribe!
    Erica πŸ™‚ x

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    Janette

    November 16, 2016 at 10:45 am

    I used to take things very personally and through life I’ve learned that I am a good person. Especially in the workplace, it’s essential to separate your ROLE from your IDENTITY as a person. Easier said than done and that doesn’t mean you can be an ass in your role and identify as an angel.

    The biggest help I’ve had in dealing with people is learning about myself and how I communicate. After all, we all instinctually make quick judgements about others, so think about why someone may be judging you. I had an extremely difficult boss once, so I turned to a book on communication to get me going and that started my inward journey to correct the way I communicate to help get constructive responses from others. The book is called crucial conversations and I highly recommend it.

    On not being a critic: no one would ever strive to be better if we thought we were great to begin with. The key is to be a constructive critic. If you don’t have the time, patience, or subject knowledge to be constructive, don’t get involved.

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    Juliet

    November 16, 2016 at 12:32 pm

    Wise words – thanks, Erin. Keep on keeping on.

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    Jen

    November 16, 2016 at 4:32 pm

    “You can’t have the tribe without the trolls.” Not awkward– I love that! πŸ˜€

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    II

    November 17, 2016 at 2:53 pm

    That was amazing Erin! Thank you so much!!! My new mantra: You can’t have the tribe without the trolls. πŸ™‚

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    Isabelle

    November 17, 2016 at 7:57 pm

    What other people think of me is non of my business. I read that somewhere and loved it.

    I agree, you will not be everyones cup of tea, and that’s OK. You can have the best intentions and step on someones toes.
    I live by these rules:
    1. Live live and act out of love.
    2. Be nice, even if the other is throwing dirt at you, but draw your boundaries.
    3. Don’t negotiate who you are. People will either take you for you or leave you be.
    4. Know who in your life is entitled to keep you accountable.

    P.s. hope you feel better soon <3

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