This week has been pretty interesting! For no special reason at all, I received compliments on my looks twice by more or less random men. First, a man on the train slipped me a letter right before he got off, because he wanted to tell me that he thought I was cute, but didn’t have the guts to do so in person. Later, a colleague of my boyfriend’s who saw me last weekend, asked my boyfriend “how for the love of God, he had found such a hot girlfriend.”

And no, this is not a text to brag about how cute or hot I am. On the contrary. This is something that never really happened to me before, so I started wondering if I looked particularly different last week. The answer was that I didn’t.

So what had changed?

My confidence. For no special reason at all, I am feeling more confident than ever. So my conclusion is: confidence shows and adds to the way I look.

Think about it –confidence is sexy!

When you feel good about yourself, you smile a lot more and you give off this vibe that other people can pick up. Mind you, there’s a difference between confidence and cockiness. The thing is, I haven’t even started doing anything different. I wear the same clothes I feel comfortable in, I wear a lot of heels (until sneaker season comes back and my boots disappear for the next year) and I do my best to not look awful. And apparently, that is enough.

The next time you doubt about putting on a certain outfit or doing something crazy, ask yourself how you feel while doing it!

Do you feel comfortable? Do you feel amazing? Does it feel like you can conquer the world? Good!

Then go out and rock those heels/that jacket/that dress/that whatever. Don’t worry about what people think, as long as you feel great doing it. People are going to have an opinion anyway, but why should that bother you? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t feel confident every day and there are definitely days when I want to look like a slob. But when I don’t, I go all the way. And so should you! You deserve to feel good, no matter what you have to do for it. So take a piece of paper and write down a list of things that you want to do or that make you feel confident and go out and live by it. And then accept every compliment you can get!

How about you, yogis? Has confidence affected the way people respond to you in the world? Tell us your stories in the comments!

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