Have you ever been asked the question, “What is one thing in life you regret?” Some people find this question really simple to answer. I’ve heard people say they regret that they never went on a certain trip; they dated a certain person; that they didn’t explore an opportunity. I’ve even heard people reel off regrets that they’ve had about their wedding day. The answer is simple for me, too, but it’s probably not one that you’d expect.
“I have no regrets.”
My answer comes with a lot of criticism. “Everyone has regrets,” is what I’m told. I just smile and respond simply, “I’m not everyone.” Sure, there are moments in my past where I’ve totally embarrassed myself, had my heart broken, or didn’t seize an opportunity that was offered to me. Without those moments I wouldn’t be who I am today.
“I love who I am today.”
I could tell you that I’m not like everyone else, and that I am so hardcore unique that there is positively nobody else like me in the entire world. That would be a complete lie. I’m actually very predictable. I enjoy my Ugg boots, pumpkin coffee, and yoga pants as much as the next 20-something woman. I jam to Taylor Swift while I’m driving, and I kick and scream when I don’t get my way, just like everyone else. One thing I can say is that I am certainly not everyone.
“I am an individual.”
You can enjoy things that other people enjoy. You can be predictable. Just remember, you are still unique. No one has walked in your shoes. No one except you. Be who you are, love who you are, and live with no regrets.
Instead of looking back and feeling embarrassed about that time your clog shoes made you fall flat on your face, laugh about it! You got back up. You’re okay. Clogs are out of fashion now, so you have nothing to worry about. Don’t regret that you wore wooden shoes that were impossible to walk in. Experiencing those shoes, that fall, that embarrassment contributed to who you are now.
“You are perfectly you.”
Dr. Paul Jerard (500 hr. RYT at Aura Wellness Center) once wrote:
When we spend too much time on any one thought or worry, it grows. The mind is a powerful tool for creating something rather large out of something possibly insignificant. Being mindful can help, because it allows us to take life one moment at a time. We can sit in the present moment and appreciate it for what it is. Mindfulness fosters gratitude and appreciation for all of the ‘small’ things in life.
Be mindful, and realize that nothing in your life is worth feeling regretful over.