There was an incredible discussion happening over in the PBYP community about this the other day, and I wanted to extend it out to you all as well because I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts on this.
I think most of us immediately equate “mindfulness” with “time consuming,” and I’m learning more and more that this is not true at all.
For example: I always rush around my kitchen like a maniac at the end of the day to clean up, get rid of dirty dishes, load/unload the dishwasher, wipe the counters, vacuum the floor, etc. (I’m a liiiiiittle particular and need my house to be clean so I wake up to a peaceful, organized space.) And I realized how stressful this felt and decided to do a little experiment… I really felt like this cleaning blitz took 30-minutes which is why I felt so hurried. I decided to time my usual hurried routine and only clocked in at 9 minutes. Totally NOT 30 minutes! So I slowed way down the next night and just eliminated the rush. Slowing down, the process took me the SAME amount of time! I couldn’t believe it, so I did another experiment…
Do any of you have a pre-bedtime routine? Wash face, brush teeth, moisturize, etc? We all have some version of one. I do, and again— I noticed how aggressively I was washing my face, and brushing my teeth at a speed like I was trying to qualify for olympic trials. Just being totally RUSHED for no reason. I felt like all of this took at least 20 minutes. So, I timed the hurry: 8 mins. I slowed down the next day and it took 9 minutes.
Forcing myself to pay attention to the times where auto-pilot takes over (and not for the better) allowed me to find where mindfulness can live in my daily life. It’s a work in progress, but I think it’s getting better. I’m not frazzled when I do silly, small things like emptying the trash cans or something, you know?! I also noticed this when I went to the country earlier this year because I had to slow down– there was nothing else do to! It felt like such a gift to be able to just notice life happening in the moment.
Ask yourself in your day-to-day activities: where am I rushing off to? Why am I hurrying through this? Where am I trying to GO? Where can I slip in little intentional moments of mindfulness? Sometimes we have appointments and obligations, and I’m not talking about the times where we have to hustle a little bit. I’m talking about the daily activities where tension and stress are our default settings. It doesn’t have to be this way.
Over to you! Have you ever noticed or tried to actively pause and reflect and even change? Where do you hurry needlessly? Do share!