Last week, actress and yoga guru Hilaria Baldwin bared all on her Instagram page when she announced that she might be experiencing a miscarriage. The actress posted a photo of herself where she’s showing off her tiny first trimester baby bump, saying that she wanted to share the news because she wants to be part of the effort to remove the stigma that surrounds miscarriages.
Sharing the news with the world
In the Instagram post, Baldwin said that the chances are very small that her current pregnancy is a viable one saying, “So, this is what is going on now: the embryo has a heartbeat, but it isn’t strong, and the baby isn’t growing very much. So we wait — and this is hard.”
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I want to share with you that I am most likely experiencing a miscarriage. I always promised myself that if I were to get pregnant again, I would share the news with you guys pretty early, even if that means suffering a public loss. I have always been so open with you all about my family, fitness, pregnancies…and I don’t want to keep this from you, just because it isn’t as positive and shiny as the rest. I think it’s important to show the truth…because my job is to help people by being real and open. Furthermore, I have no shame or embarrassment with this experience. I want to be a part of the effort to normalize miscarriage and remove the stigma from it. There is so much secrecy during the first trimester. This works for some, but I personally find it to be exhausting. I’m nauseous, tired, my body is changing. And I have to pretend that everything is just fine—and it truly isn’t. I don’t want to have to pretend anymore. I hope you understand. So, this is what is going on now: the embryo has a heartbeat, but it isn’t strong, and the baby isn’t growing very much. So we wait—and this is hard. So much uncertainty…but the chances are very, very small that this is a viable pregnancy. I have complete confidence that my family and I will get through this, even if the journey is difficult. I am so blessed with my amazing doctor, my dear friends, and my loving family…My husband and my four very healthy babies help me keep it together and have the perspective of how truly beautiful life is, even when it occasionally seems ugly. The luck and gratitude I feel that I am my babies’ mommy, is wonderfully overwhelming and comforting. In your comments, please be kind. I’m feeling a bit fragile and I need support. I’m hoping, that by sharing this, I can contribute to raising awareness about this sensitive topic.
Losing your unborn child must be one of the worst things that could happen to someone. Sharing something so scary on Instagram with other people must be terrifying, but Baldwin saw an opportunity to create awareness and help other women who have gone through the same thing.
Baldwin received some negative feedback
Women’s Health reported that everyone did not receive Baldwin’s post with the grace one would expect. Internet trolls are an ever-present entity that we’ll probably never be completely rid off, and they made themselves heard in the comments of Baldwin’s vulnerable post. She did not let them get her down though. Instead, she used their comments as an opportunity to show the world what true grace looks like.
One troll commented, “Nothing is private anymore. Good god, you’re annoying.” How freakin’ insensitive and rude. Most of us would probably feel like lashing back with something equally rude or try to ignore it, but Baldwin decided that there’s no time better than the present to speak up. She wrote back: “Why are you on my page? I would suggest that you go through and read even just a handful of comments from people who have experienced the same thing. And maybe your heart and compassion will grow.” Boom. That’s how it’s done! We don’t know about you, but we’re pretty sure that troll didn’t have anything left to say after that comment.
Most people appreciated that Baldwin shared her story
Despite some of the negativity in the comments, most people were supportive and understanding, with some even thanking Baldwin for sharing her experience, because they’ve gone through the same thing before. The post garnered almost 1 million likes within 24 hours and some of the more positive and understanding comments were heartbreaking, with many women sharing their own experience. One wrote, “THANK YOU for sharing this. I’ve had three…”, while another said, “I ache for you and I don’t even know you. I had three miscarriages, all devastating.”.
Losing an unborn child is devastating, no matter what trimester you’re in
After seeing all the positive and heartbreaking responses to the post, Baldwin took to her Instagram stories to tell her followers that she didn’t want any of them feeling bad while reading the negative comments that claim losing a child in the first trimester isn’t that bad, saying “I don’t care if you are one day pregnant or nine months pregnant, you start to develop a connection as soon as you know you are pregnant”.
On Friday, Baldwin thanked fans for all of their support and love, posting a picture of her with her four children. She assured everyone that she knows she will be okay saying, “I have perspective to understand sadness and loss in the grand scheme of things. Emotionally I am processing it all…being able to be open with you has been extremely healing. I was very nervous to share, and am so relieved that it was received with such love.”
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Thank you for your support and thank you for your stories. I want to assure you that I know I will be ok. I have perspective to understand sadness and loss in the grand scheme of things. Emotionally I am processing it all…being able to be open with you has been extremely healing. I was very nervous to share, and am so relieved that it was received with such love. I am grateful that you listened and I’m grateful that I have these tiny partners to go through this with. I don’t know what I would do without my community. Thank you for making my world a brighter place and for your sharing. I know that you didn’t have to and am humbled and honored by your openness. I don’t know about you, but I find it extremely comforting to know that I am not alone on this difficult journey ❤️ #neveralone
She also extended her gratitude towards those who had shared their own stories about miscarriage with her, adding that it made her feel less alone.
Miscarriage is a topic that needs more attention
Baldwin’s story and some of the negative replies to it is a sign that many people are still sadly misinformed about how traumatizing a miscarriage is. According to Healthline, between 10 and 15 percent of known pregnancies end in miscarriage. That’s a scary number, it’s awful that they happen in the first place, but as Baldwin said, it is important that we remove the stigma surrounding it. Once we’re more open about it, we’re helping other women who had gone through the same experience and in helping them, we’re also helping ourselves.