My name is Sarah and I’m a self-helpaholic. I love books that tell me how to become my best self, how to be happier, how to visualize, how to stop taking shit from people, how to be successful and everything in between. While I have no desire to “fix” myself and neither should any of you, reading and learning from other people is how we grow and evolve as human beings.
These 5 books below are what I’m currently reading or have read in the past, and I highly recommend them.
By: Mark Manson
Best quote: “You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get fucked.”
Mark Manson’s writing is similar to one of those bands that starts out as a slow burn and then suddenly turns into a huge forest fire; nobody knows about them and then suddenly everyone does. I consider myself one of those fans who was there in the beginning and I like to brag about it.
I started reading Mark Manson’s blog long before he wrote a book and I immediately resonated with his sarcastic humor that had brilliant insights about life underneath the surface.
The opposite of the touchy-feely, hug yourself approach, Manson tells people how to improve their lives amongst all the shit.
His next book Everything is Fucked: A Book About Hope is due to come out on May 14.
By: Jen Sincero
Best quote: “So often, we pretend we’ve made a decision, when what we’ve really done is signed up to try until it gets too uncomfortable.”
Sincero describes age old concepts in this book like visualization and forgiveness which have already been talked about countless times, however she describes them in less of an academic, logical way and more in the way your best friend would.
As I was reading this I took note after note until I filled a notebook almost as big as the book itself, and I digested the whole thing in just 2 days.
By: Gabrielle Bernstein
Best quote: “Trust that your wounds are exactly as the Universe planned. They were divinely placed in your life in the perfect order so that you could show up for them with love and remember the light within.”
This book, written by one of the people I mention in “5 Inspiring Souls Who Will Help You Evolve,” takes the law of attraction to a whole new level. Rather than being about how to visualize and attract the things you want, Bernstein teachers readers how to truly trust that the universe wants what is best for you.
So often in life, we have such a hard time relinquishing control and we spend 95% of our time worrying about things that haven’t even happened yet. When we go through tough times or traumatic things or when life just gets too damn hard, Bernstein teaches us how to have faith and surrender when we’re feeling completely powerless.
By: Gretchen Rubin
Best quote: “Never start a sentence with the words ‘No offense.”
I’ve read this book 2 or 3 times now, and it never gets old. Rather than giving readers the usual law of attraction, gratitude journaling, meditation type of self help we’re all so accustomed to, Rubin takes an organized approach to happiness, an approach I feel I could truly do myself. She sharply writes about her experiences using the research she has done on happiness without stealing old ideas.
Every month, Rubin decides she will work on one area of her life and writes about this while also giving readers an insight into how she made tangible, daily changes that lead to real happiness. She comes off as someone who is learning along with the reader about what makes human beings happy, and doesn’t come off as a “guru” ready to sell you something.
By: Stephen Covey
Best quote: “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
An oldie, but a goodie. I sometimes think of this as the mother of the self help genre, and I couldn’t get through this list without mentioning it. This is another book that will make you want to break out a highlighter and a notebook and write down practically the entire thing.
My favorite thing about this book is that it focuses on the internal work we must do as human beings before we can ever expect the outside to get any better. Happiness depends on your own actions and efforts, and Covey teaches readers that there is no quick fix to growing into a better version of themselves.
In previous years, most people were highly embarrassed to be seen in the self help section of a Barnes and Noble, however these days, evolving and growing as a person is seen as a popular thing to do. Everyone is out there trying to become the best version of themselves, and I guarantee these 5 books will help you do the same.